I thoroughly enjoyed September. Did I meet every goal? A good portion. I mean I worked hard, I gave back, I enjoyed amazing company, but best of all…..I learned.
Here are random clips from my musings lately ….
Musings: a period of reflection or thought
Disclaimer: As usual, this is me being open. Judging is never welcome here. Just Love, Smiles & Giggles, and Lots of Growth.
“Discipline really sucks.”
“Excellence requires a step above average. And quite frankly, sometimes, I just want to be average.”
“I mean how can I possibly squeeze in working out, going to work, cooking, cooking healthy mind you, maintaining a blog, maintaining myself, checking up and doing things with and for my seemingly 1000+ family and friends…..my Lord..”
“Social media be lying…”
“Somethings gotta give…”
“Doesn’t always something give…get left behind…”
“Sometimes it is easier to just be average. But it really is the desire for more…for better… that makes one do more… “
“Structure…Structure is what I crave…Better structure…”
“Man I need a life coach or something…”
“I’m really blessed.”
“Am I good christian?”
“Do I exemplify Christ in ALL I do…? because a lot of people sure do irritate me”
“I’m not perfect”
“I’m trying though…*sigh*”
“Why are some people intentionally horrible? like mean? spiteful?…like did you just hear yourself say that stupid thing?…”
“Do people think before they talk?? before they act?”
“I need to work on my patience.”
“I miss my mommy.”
“I love love fall…pretty brown leaves falling everywhere…”
“I read somewhere that trees teach us to let dead things go… how accurate.”
“letting dead things go…lol…sounds about right…”
“Dead relationships…dead promises….dead memories…”
“let the hurt die, Awele..”
“2016 is almost over…my word..what a year…”
“and I still have a lot to do…”
“October is about to be so live.”
The year is almost over!!
**iphone emoji shocked face!**
Lol! Question 1.) why do I always like to scream? 2.) you guys can tell I have an iphone and I use my emoji’s quite often right?
Okay! Right to it! How was your August?? Yes, We’re still on the Best Possible Me Monthly Check-in and I really hope you all are enjoying your Year so far ! Seriously it is my hope and joy that Month by Month you experience amazing things, people, places, food… just Amazingness all around ! #BPM Yasssss!
So, July was crazy awesome right? Click here and read all about it if you haven’t! But guys, seriously, going into the month, I was nervous… like What if…? Trust me I know you all think that too. What if this month doesnt work out? What if work is harder than I thought? What if I am not financially secure? Just what if!?? But thank God I remember that duhh, I serve a God that tells me time and time again not worry about anything but to pray over everything.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God” Philippians 4:6
Keeping this verse and others too in my mind, I declared over August that it would be a month of PEACE and JOY! and boyyyy was it!! So here were my goals, and hey now ! I accomplished 100% of them ! Whooo!!!!!!
- Go somewhere new – I went to an amazing movie theater with friends and the experience was wonderful! It was like I was in bed. with my blanky. and a button to push for unlimited popcorn. Myyyy my my. How come I never knew about this before? two thumbs up !!!
- Do something new – Paint Night – Check out my skills tho! This is on sale for $499.99. Let me know if you’re interested. LOL!! okay im half kidding.
- Meet someone new– heyyy new friends at work ! A genuine smile and “how are you” goes a long way
- Help someone new – While I could not physically participate in the Homeless Initiative, my amazing roomie held down the fort and created over 100 goodie bags for the homeless!! It was awesome!!! I also kept snacks in my car for anyone I saw with a sign who maybe needed some food. This works if you do not feel comfortable giving money but check with your local authorities because sadly, some states are making it illegal to feed the homeless. *sad face*.
– I also helped my co-workers !
- Support my friends – A friend and an awesome brother to me had a comedy performance in Jersey and I as well as my friends supported him. It was a hilarious night to say the least. I also had a ball attending a beautiful friend’s bridal shower. The countdown is on, Abby!!
- Go above and beyond – If I saw a need, I stepped up. Whether it was getting groceries for an aunt, surprising my sisters with lunch, listening to a friend in need, staying past clock-out time at work, I kept praying for opportunities to do more ! and God did not disappoint.
- Family time – Family time is everything to me and I loved my breakfast/lunch dates with my sisters! plus I took my cutie siblings, JJ and Armani to the movies and they loved it!
Whoo!!! I feel so accomplished and I truly enjoyed my August! It was fantastic !! Memories ontop of memories. I am so grateful for this life God has given me, truly. Now your goals might have been just one simple thing or it could have been a long laundry list. Whatever the case might be, I encourage you to get out there and really ENJOY life ! Setting goals does not have to be stressful and you can start out light.
There are so many places in your city to be explored, people to meet, quests to conquer, and FUN to be had…. and it’s alllll waiting on you.
Hey now, that’s the spirit.
I’ll see you later for BPM September Edition.
In the mean time,
So let me first say that I was almost done with this post…so EXCITED to post….and then it all deleted. -__-
And Yes, I saved my draft.
But poof ! Into thin air.
No evidence whatsoever. *sigh*
Regardless!!! Counting it all joy and moving on….. My July was Amazing ! Out of the 9 goals, I accomplished 6 of them.
Okay fine, if you want to be
mean technical, I guess you can say I accomplished 5.5/9 of my goals.
LoL, let me explain.
Haha! Kevin Hart Let Me Explain…. Get it? Okay lets just get started….
Here were my goals and my #BPMmonthlycheckout.
For my personal growth:
1. Lose 5 lbs – Almost ! I Lost 4.5 lbs !!
2. Pass my Boards! – Done!! I did! I am an official registered nurse! Whoo!!
3. Make a completely new dish I haven’t cooked before ! *yum* – Done!! Ribs, parmasean garlic chicken, yummers!
For the honor of someone else:
1. I plan on serving in a give-away package event for the homeless ! *excited face!** – Done!! It was amazing!!
2. I plan on displaying excellent service at my job and making people smile! – Done!! It helps that I lOVE my Job!!!
3. I plan on encouraging people through blogging more in July! – Almost! I did read & follow more blogs but I will post more!
For my family:
1. Calling my family more- Almost! I wish I called more family but i’ll do better
2. Traveling with the siblings and making memories – Done! Even though I wish it was with more of my siblings! My bro & I took a road trip to see our sister in North Carolina ! Fun fun fun!
3. Spending time with my pops – Not Done : ( This too will get better in August, stay tuned!
So Yay!! The whole point of goals is to push yourself to be better. There’s no putting yourself down on this blog.
All in all, July was AMAZING!! I had so much fun, I honestly feel overwhelmingly blessed. I enjoyed a cookout with close amazing friends, I blessed people and was blessed by people through a serve-the-homeless initiative, movies, birthdays, a wine-festival, passed my boards, started work, consistently worked out, traveled, enjoyed eating right, sometimes ate bad, laughed, cried, made mistakes, and learned !
Mannnnn, I love this LIFE God has given me.
And I hope YOU do to.
So, How was Your JULY ? And what are your goals for August? Stay tuned for August’s Best Possible Me Check-in….
Until next time!
Hey lovely lovelies!
So this is going to be a super duper quick post on #BestPossibleME aka #BPM !
I wanted to say Happy JULY!!! Yes, even though we are 10 days in already. Lol! What?
I want to start a #BPM Monthly Check-in & Check-out !
Wait whaaa? What is that…
Lol !! Well It’s self-explanatory. At the start of the month, I’ll check in with you, get you HYPE!! Get you in the groooveee baby! LOL! And MOST importantly get you thinking as to What Your Monthly Goals are to be the Best Possible YOU! And then at the end, we’ll check-out and reflect.. How did those goals go? What can we do better? What can we NOT do going forward…
Now give me a stronger Yay!!!**
Okay maybe not.
Oh and I’m human and hopefully you who are reading this are too. So if the goals repeat themselves, I think that’s just fine, right? I so hope you join in ! I’m excited!! To join in or know what they look like, the goals will look like this….. Feel free to customize it to how you want it to look like:
—For my personal growth
—For the exhortation (oooh big word) or honor of someone else
—For my family
So For Example…… For this month of July:
For my personal growth:
1. Lose 5 lbs – yeah yeah, don’t …let’s not do this. Just accept it !
2. Pass my Boards! **pray for me!!**
3. Make a completely new dish I haven’t had before ! *yum*
For the honor of someone else:
1. I plan on serving in a give-away package event for the homeless ! *excited face!**
2. I plan on displaying excellent service at my job and making people smile!
3. I plan on encouraging people through blogging more in July!
For my family:
1. Calling my family more (somewhere my aunties and uncle said AMEEN! LOL!)
2. Traveling with the siblings and making memories
3. Spending time with my pops : )
Now while this may be new to You, I have been doing this for over 2 years now and It has truly transformed my day-to-day living. It gives my life so much more purpose and instead of saying “daggg, where did the time go? What have I done in my life? WHAT AM I DOING in my life?” You can simply say…Wait a minute !! Charlene from #BestPossibleME Put me ON to Monthly Goals and you can whip out your Journal or Where-ever you will store your goals-and-progress and you WILL look at it with so much joy, pride, reflection and just feel encouraged that You are Indeed Growing and Living!
Okay until next time,
Hiiii Blog Fam !
Do you see how I’m on a roll already?… See? I’m doing better !
**Iphone black girl emoji hands in the air!**
Okay, so I’m here to blog about my experience at the Pinky Promise conference which was Amazing ! Now while that is my summary of the experience, don’t worry I will be breaking it down exactly to what was A-mazing and also what was…. not. so. much. a-mazing.
Now before I do, I need to say this so please clean your glasses or if you don’t wear a pair, blink a couple of times so you can read this clearly ….because I will not be misunderstood on here. This is my blog, my views, and pretty much my perspective. I will always be respectful, the best I can, as well as be honest, and I will stay true to moi **smiley face** so with that being said, I ask that you respect my opinion(s) and if you don’t dig it, then beat it.
OK, let’s do this!
So first a general gist about the Pinky Promise conference. It’s a conference put together by a phenomenal team headed by the Founder, Speaker, and Author, Heather Lindsey who is basically pro-abstinence/celibacy and pro-women being all about their walk with God. (check out her Website & Instagram here. Also more info about the conference here). Going to this conference, My friends, my sister, and I were all in this place of great expectation from God. Individually, we’d been going through some difficult tests and from many conversations, we just needed a renewal, some real encouragement…a word…
Yeah it was pretty serious.
But we were so excited and went with ready hearts to take it all in. The conference is in Atlanta and so since we had never been, we also got a package deal to see some awesome sights like The Center for Civil Rights Museum, the CNN center, and World of Coca-Cola amongst other places… But I digress, back to the conference…
It was so awesome getting to the Hilton Atlanta where it was held, We felt sooooo welcome! There were all these ladies with fascinator hats and smiles with ready hugs to welcome us at the door. We got registered and got these cute pinky promise bags with cute freebies and a name badge (great idea) with the schedule conveniently attached to the back. I mean you could tell a lot of thought went into the planning stages.
Thursday, aka Day 1, was pretty chill. All we had to do was register and relax until the worship experience later that evening. Looking back, my friends and I appreciated the gaps in between the events. They were well worth it so that we could tour the city, get food to eat, or just relax and reflect. That evening, the worship experience was literally wow! The band came to do nothing but praise God ! We were so happy and it was easy being ushered into God’s presence. Day 2 & 3 were filled with activities such as peaceful quiet time, Zumba, Meet & Greet, Book Signing, Clothing Swaps, fun seminars for singles and married women, mothers and business owners.
My favorite was the modesty talk with Jennifer Spears! It was great hearing about how modesty is not just about your physical appearance but your HEART as well… Anddddd I got to personally talk to and take a picture with her !! **eek!**
Now at the end of each full day, Friday and Saturday, was a sermon aka preaching. Friday’s was by Heather’s hubby, Pastor Cornelius Lindsey (men check out his website and blog here!!), and Saturday was by Heather. When I say you had to be there…. like I can’t FULLY and in detail talk about what they preached (at least not in this post) but let me tell you…
it w-r-e-c-k-e-d !!
Here’s like the most basic of basic points that hit me from the messages:
1. Christians have got to be more DO-ERS of the word instead of just hearers. It simply does no good until you ACT out your faith.
2. Judge Y-o-u-r-s-e-l-f daily
3. Do you have a heart for people and God’s work? or just yourself? 0_0 #majorouch
And here I thought I was going to get some cutesy, everything-go’n-be-alright, rainbows and flowers message
Yeah, I definitely left with a heart to DO, and be more like Christ and not just talk about it.
OH! There were also ONgoing initiatives that you could have totally plugged in to:
1.) state wide baby shower for single pregnant/ low-income mothers (still happening..check the site!)
2.) 24 hour worship where we prayed for the state of the world (especially as the South Carolina shooting had just happened : ( *sigh*
Now for the parts I didn’t like, rightttt… Well, honestly it was no shade to the event but more of a call for us as christians to just do better. During the praise and worship, it was pretty disappointing watching some ladies just sit down and just stay on their phones the whole experience. Like you paid all this money to come and justtttt do that…? huh. And of course, there were the people that came for the WRONG-EST reasons….like to:
1.) find a man (there was a men’s conference literally a stones throw away *sigh*)
2.) to sit 0.5268 inches from heather and cornelius’s face — like seriously, stop idolizing human beings! It’s okay to get excited about meeting someone who is such an awesome beautiful vessel of truth but uhhh, some people just needed to relax and get with the message.
3.) to NOT network. really? it’s a conference. Get our of your comfort zone and meet someone new! I did! and I even wish I met more people. **adding that on my to-do list for next year*
But that’s it though. No one is perfect. Not even I. We can alllllll do better.
As for the conference, I am so sure next year’s will be even MORE LIVE!!! I sure hope they add a screen and show the lyrics to songs that are being performed during worship so that people who are not familiar can sing along. I also plan by God’s grace on being more of a helper in the form of volunteering and spreading words of encouragement to more and MORE people like through this blog and let them know that GOD LOVES and He LOVES so completely. He takes us as we are and makes us so MUCH MORE in HIM. So I’m totally cleaving and I’m never ever letting GO.
I can’t wait for NEXT YEAR’S PINKY PROMISE CONFERENCE!!!
Until next time Y’all,
Yessss.. I understand….
I am so so guilty and accept all charges of abandonment to the state of my blog and my blog family.
But since we’re so full of grace! LOL! I know you all have forgiven me and I’m backkk!!!..
Like For Real this time…
Okay fine, you’ve heard that before. Let’s just fall back on that grace & pray for your girl! O-K!
SO, right to the Post… Mannnnnnnn, Can you Believe we are about to end the HALF mark of 2015 Already!? Wow! Just WOW! I literally can remember bringing in the Year and just having that usual sense of renewal and excitement and PURPOSE……
Well, where did it go?
For some of you, you might be filling just… bleh these days… Just going through the motions, Just existing…And you know, sometimes, in your mind, that’s just better than drama, ‘cuz no one wants that… You’ve got bills as it is, and Just watching the NEWS honey, Phew! can be so depressing.
Racism. Bad Economy. Lying Politicians. Gender Switch-ups. Terrorism.
Natural Disasters. Death.
I mean it all can make you want to hold your head and just SCREAM!!!!
I’ve heard people say “Just come back, Lord” “Lord we’ve had just about enough.” “Just come, and end this madness”. I’ve felt like that as well. I’ve felt like these tears need to just stop running, for real. I too want to go to that place where there will be no more suffering but just peace and joy and happiness ! Yes, Heaven is the goal for every one (at least it is for me !). However, how many of us are honest enough to realize that if Jesus came back now, so many people, people even you know….maybe even you yourself….won’t be going with Him…
What’s my response to it all? Instead of cowering in fear at the stream of ongoing depressing news, at people disappointing you over and over and then over again… Instead of just giving up, because it is soooooooooo easy to give up. I know. Instead of all that, I choose to worship.
You see when Paul and Silas worshipped in Acts 16, like TRULY worshipped, God MOVED. They were not chilling on the rooftop of a hotel in Du’bai…..I mean if you are, that’s fine too…no judgement….. But Seriously, they were in pain, in discomfort, in shackles, being scorned, but they CHOSE to worship. So maybe you need to right where you just WORSHIP God and give it to Him, because that’s WHERE He will Move on your behalf. Maybe you need to just stop doing Life on Your own will and just say, God I Need You…because I just don’t know How to on my Own.
I attached my current favorite worship video by Shana Wilson. She is simply out of this world with her worship. I also attached the lyrics if you don’t know the words. Enjoy!
Lyrics attached here
Here are some Bible Verses I love on Worship:
“Worship the Lord your God, and his blessing will be on your food and water. I will take away sickness from among you” Exodus 23:25
“The heavens declare the glory of God;
the skies proclaim the work of his hands.
Day after day they pour forth speech;
night after night they reveal knowledge.” (Psalm 19:2)
And would’t you know that Psalm 19:2 was not lying!!! If you don’t want to Worship, God’s got the heavens and the skies praising Him !! Look at these pictures I captured on my phone a few days ago…
He’s sooo awesome….
Just worship in response, y’all.
I’ll see y’all in the next blog.
I have lists and things to-do.
My lists and things to-do have things to-do before them.
According to my count-down app, Graduation *insert praise break* is literally 2 months away….
And yet, I have assignments added to assignments…
I have papers to write that look like dragons undefeated
I could just scream.
Maybe, I think… After graduation, it’ll get easier….right?
After graduation, comes certification exams. I have to officially earn the titles I am working so hard for. So that’s going to take some intensive studying…
Okay. Fine. Maybe after the exams, THEN it’ll get easier…..right?
*buzzer sound x2*
There comes looking for a job, and of course that entails hours of searching….research….applications…..cover letters…interviews….
*insert iphone crying face emoji*
OKAY! So after the job….IT GETS EASIER??? RIGHT??
For the love of Fries! Why can’t life be some merry-go-round, piece of straw-berry cheese cake!? whyyyyyyyyyy!?
Well, I have no answer for that, to be honest. But I know one thing for sure.
I’ve got God.
And through it all, every challenge, every situation, every new day with its new tasks, I have got the best thing going for me. God’s grace. God’s protection. God’s provision. God’s love. God’s mercy. God’s goodness… God’s promises which are to never leave me nor forsake me (Deuteronomy 31:6), which are to give me my own secret service aka angels (Psalm 91:11-12), which are to bless the works of my hands if I commit them to Him (Proverbs 16:3)…..
I mean, that’s pretty awesome.
So even as I’m writing this, I sat up straight, I even flicked back my hair. I even have a smile on my face. Hey now. And I hope you do too. : )
So you ready? Situation acknowledged, Reality assessed, We still have the upper hand, don’t we now? Because at the start and end of the day, We are still winning. With God on our side, we can do the impossible.
So let’s “Note to self” shall we….
To be the Best P-o-s-s-i-b-l-e Me, I’ve got to fix my approach to everything.
More smiles, less groans,
More prayers, less complaints, More sticky notes with Bible-verses in my planner & wall, less forgetting what God said,
More sleep (sigh!), less all-nighters (seriously!),
More PLANNING, less clutter,
More leaps of Faith (weee!), less shoulda-woulda-coulda (gulp!)
I can do this!
We can do this!
So like Arnold “I’ll be back”, I’ve got some
dragons, I mean, Papers to take care of.
Until next time,
Hey my blogger-loves,
So I have something for you. It’s 10 million dollars. Yes you read right….$10,000,000. All those zero’s. I’m not playing with you. What are the rules? Well you have to just get to the location where I am and it’s yours. Oh, And the first 10 people who message me can get the location and must pick it up within 24 hours.
Are You Ready?!!
Do you have a pen and paper?!!!
LOL! calm it down, take a breath, loves. Ha Ha! I can already see the eye-rolls and the “girl I knew you weren’t serious” lip smirks. Really. Don’t you wish I was though?! But wait…what if you had 10 million dollars ..or more…..right now…in your hand….. ? What would you do if I hmm let’s just say la-di-da came to you and took your money and just smacked it to the ground anddd wait…wait for it! What if I poured some 99c Mango-flavored Arizona Ice Tea on your money while laughing like a deranged mad woman?
What would you do?
LOL! yup I can already hear it.
Pshhh, I would smack you so hard, Charlene!
Yeah right, girl your hand would still be in the air cuz I’d upper-cut you.
What? 10 million? *hiss* oh no you wouldn’t dare…
LOL! I can imagine the way you would aggressively fight for your money because duh honey, you aint no dummy. That money equals retirement TODAY, vacations for life, a house in every country and continent, please don’t let me go on! I know what you would do to fight for 10 million dollars or more if it was rightfully yours.
My question is, why don’t you fight for your peace the same way ?
Yes, I said it. Your p-e-a-c-e. What, you didn’t know your peace was worth SO much more? Much more than the priciest gem in the whole universe? Let me explain how much peace is so worth it, if I can. It’s the factor that decides if you’re going to have a great day or not…. It’s the wave that washes over you when you choose to let go and let GOD…. It’s the deep breath that calms you down as you try to work through your to-do list….it’s the sound of ocean waves and tweeting birds…. it’s the random smile when you think good thoughts ….it’s the deep sigh of relief…. it’s I’m going to be okay no matter what…. It’s…Amazing.
But some of us (me included don’t worry I’m with you) can be going about our day, all you know, chill and dont-bother-me-i-wont-bother-you attitude and boom! something happens….it could be that co-worker that doesn’t know how to talk (and his breath smells) OR that parent that calls you out the blue with “have-you-gotten-your-5th-degree-I-want-grandchildren-by-the-way-did-you-hear-about-uncle-X-daughter-who-won-an-oscar” speech OR WORST YET it could be that voice inside your head that starts worrying about a 1,000 things a minute “when am I going to get rich?” “I’m not good enough” “when am I going to have the house with the picket fence?” “will I ever find true love” “Why isn’t my body like __?” “Why do I have so many bills to pay” “How could she treat me like that?” ARRGHHH!!
And just like that….. poof! Peace Gone. Face Surly. Mouth pursed. Attitude in the trash bin.
Sometimes I wonder…. the devil must just loveeee to get us where he knows us to lose it the most. Read it again if you can.
So I’ll be vulnerable, I hate to lose ANYTHING…so when that happens, it’s fireworks and very very very colorful diction. *clears throat*. So how do I fix this: Like, seriously, how do I do better and HOLD ON to my PEACE so that I can have better days, an infectiously happy attitude, and honestly keep my sanity !?
Well these are the THREE things I have been practicing since January 1st: and Let me tell you….. I’ve been WINNING so far:
1. Keep your mind occupied with HIM! —> Him being God. Isaiah 26:3 says “You (God) will keep in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because He trusts in you“
What this looks like for me is literally listening to my favorite gospel artists (worship songs, gospel hip-hop, christian rock) on Pandora around-ze-clock. I love music. And training my mind to revert to uplifting christian music keeps me remembering the words lonnnggg after I have turned the radio off. And you know what? those words are uplifting!
Others have a favorite word in the Bible they refer to or youtube a sermon or a talk from a God-fearing man of woman of God…whatever you do…Get Him In Your Head. It’ll drive out all other crazy thing that threaten your p-e-a-c-e. Trust me.
2. Transform your mind about what frustrates you ! —> Phillipians 4:7 says
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
So I told you about how I hate losing stuff right? okay so having God in my head was great but if I didn’t get super-organized, I knew even God would be like “get your life, now!”…so I did. I took time to de-clutter and I’m even currently on a clean-room-365 challenge. Why? because I want to do better. If I practice being organized and knowing where I put what, Guess who’ll be super peace-ful 24-7?? **points to self!* Try It!
3. Do Peaceful things ! —> Psalm 34:14 says “Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.”
This is like super duh but trust me, even the best of us can miss it. If someone stresses you out, uh stop hanging out with them. OR tell them to quit being so dramatic! If a job stresses you out, and #1 and #2 above hasn’t worked, uhhh maybe it’s time to job-hunt! But also find peaceful things that you can resort to when your someone tries to smack your 10 million dollars, I mean your PEACE from your hands…
Seriously, maybe when you start thinking of your peace in that regards, you’ll take it super seriously….
There’s so many peaceful things to do out there…. Yoga, Taking Walks, Meditating…shoot, take a nap if that’ll help.
Just remember to love you enough to NOT let ANYone steal your peace.
Until next time,
Guess who loves you more?
: ) Charlene