My Happy Place

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So I had to get away … My happy place is the beach..

I take the verse about renewing your mind daily very seriously.  Like seriously, to the umpteenth power in fact.

Romans 12:2 says “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will”

Side note; you won’t know what God’s will is/how to test it/how to sense it… if your mind is cluttered so ….Mental Health Awareness Plug! Free your mind honey !  In this world, where daily B.S happens (just watch the news for an hour), You. Have.  To.  Renew.  Your.  Mind.

 

So off to the beach I went ! Sometimes it’s hiking, sometimes it’s listening to music while taking a walk, sometimes it’s getting a massage fit for a queen (which reminds me I’m way overdue for one), shoot, sometimes it’s sleeping ! (sleep-lovers unite!) but what-ever it is that takes your mind off the worries of this world -even for just a day – and helps you de-stress and de-clutter…. Do It.

 

Seriously, Do It.

Your Best Possible You Depends On It.

 

Do you know how I know it worked? I came back from my mini-get-away and went straight to work, right?  One hour in and my nail chips. -__-  Mind you, I have a wedding to attend this weekend. I just laughed. Easy fix. I’ll get it taken care of later.  30 minutes later, someone says something stupid ignorant thats deserving of a charlene-u-better-swerve-this-fool-now-come-back.  Again, I just laugh and say “You need a nap.” .5% shade. Not my usual 80-95%. I’m still cool. Not even 5 minutes later, I get super cramps (Eve!!) and eventually and as always, busy becomes the usual understatement it is at work. #ERLife

But through it all, I was…cool.

Cool as ever.

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I kept hearing the sounds of ocean waves crashing in my ear, and pelicans and blue herons chatting and gliding all around the pier, children laughing and the wind blowing gentle massages on my skin….

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*happy sigh*

Oh but peace feels so good …..but you’ve got to let yourself experience it.

And have some ice-cream while you’re at it….

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You’re welcome, ; )

Until next time,

Peace fingers….

Awele Charlene

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How To Say No… #HeAintIT

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So….

 

Being 29 and single apparently is a tsk tsk to “society”. Hmm. Well I cannot promise that I didn’t just put my middle finger up to society  *inserts portia from RHOATL laugh* BUT I can tell you this; uhm dating in this day and age is hard honey.

 

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church mother hmm!

 

For one, I don’t even think the term dating is what it used to be or even should be. There’s so much hoopla, confusion and worse, pride. It’s so sad that now we’re down to misconstrued or unsaid intentions.  “I wanna be wined and dined”  “don’t read too much into it, it’s JUST a date”  “don’t take me to the movies”  “who’s paying?” “I mean If I pay does this mean I get to “come upstairs afterwards?”

*SIGH!*

Plus Have you looked at the rate of divorce in the world today?

Listen honey bunches, I am going to take my time. I know my worth. I know what I want out of a relationship/partnership/union  ANDD  I am not here for the shenanigans. So here is my Best-Possible-Moi reference guide to knowing #HeAINTIt AND saying N-O to all the men who step up to you without respect, honor, and PURPOSE.  Let’s get it started;

1. For the over-complimenter Slick Rick who’s just interested in getting in your pants:   H-No. Spray Cockroach spray at him. LOL! Just half kidding. This is the firm “stop now”. I used to be so “nice” and would take forever saying No. Ha ! Come on love, You know better. You want better.  Tell him He needs to stop it …like yesterday. What is he telling you that you don’t know!? “You’re Hot.”  Smile and Tell him “You Right!” Don’t tap out ma boo. If he shrugs off, gets pissed and walks away, he wasn’t even interested in the first place. Voila! Roach Problem I mean Problem solved.

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2. For the one who always claims to like you but never can find time:  Ha ! How do you say Nah in 3 different languages? Stop collecting cobwebs and checking your phone for his reply. Go Live your Life ! The one for you is waiting for you on the corner of MOVE and ON. And when Mr. One-of-These-Days hits you up again with the “Hey Stranger” text…. Don’t. Text. Back.  I know, I have a bag of Petty I wanted to dip from but let’s be better. Stop entertaining not-enough-ers.

Better luck next time
Better luck next time

3. For the one who sends mixed signals/Slow pokes:  You are not a broken radio antenna. Go for blunt and ask “What is this?” lol! Sorry I despise the phrase “what are we?” sounds like a sad puppy line in Titanic.  But whatever does it for you, come out and ask and be straight. Get your answer and it better not be a “let’s see how it goes” line.  Say it with me “Purpose!”

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Tell him boy bye

4. For the Come-on-Too-Strong-ers/Creeps/Weirdos:  Listen, Linda. Block them. Lol!! One trick I used to do and this is 1 of my secrets: I become a creep right back.LOL!! One time a guy said he wanted to marry me and wouldn’t leave me alone! For pete’s sake, he didn’t even know my middle name!! I texted back a long (and I mean long) prayer and the guy never texted me back. Lol! *dusts hands*  Goooood Riddance.

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But for real though, If a man is not 100% intent on honoring you for all your worth, NO is very simple and powerful.  N-O. N to tha O.  However you say it, you don’t want to be nasty (except for in rare occasions he’s missing a few brain cells). You want to be hold on to your peace and your standards. Don’t SETTLE.  Your God isn’t a God of confusion.  I’m just saying.

 

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Amazing

 

It’ll be worth it, honey.

 

Until next time,

 

Peace fingers,

 

Awele Charlene

 

 

 

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Just Do It

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So the other day, I wanted to hike. I had the itch to just go. See, part of my goals this year as I said in my other blog post is to travel. And I just don’t mean travel like ONLY getting into a plane and ending up in another city or country, I actually mean like getting OUT of my comfort zone and going to new places ….new restaurants… new sites…. *happy sigh as I stare off into the distance*

And That’s What I did.

I just did it.

I went hiking with my best friend, Moyo, and boy was it fun. It was actually comical.  We both had never been to this location. And so you would have made a meme of us trying to figure out the map and looking at the cross roads signs like …”uhhh…yeah…” LOL!

But let me tell you; It. Was. Fun.

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Voila. Life

So have you ever had an itch to do something out of the ordinary, more specifically out of YOUR ordinary.  Just Do It. Don’t wait for people to co-sign or affirm your dreams. Just Do It. Side note: Just be safe. LOL! and don’t hurt anyone. (You know you gotta put a psa for the crazies these days hehe).

                                                                                 But Be Happy !
                                                       The World Is Yours For The Conquering.
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This is how i feel everyday. Sitting on top of the world

Afterwards, we ate at Mookie’s, a barbecue spot to definitely write home about.  The food was soooo good but Ohhh the looks we got. Even the drive home was a mini music jam fest. It was such a beautiful day.

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Me and My best friend for life

 Laughs, new places, catching up, music, encouragement, great food, memories, great nap. The End.

Perfect Day.

Until Next Time,

Peace Fingers,

Awele Charlene

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Hashtag Goals! How to Have a Great Year !

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Hey Lovely!

So I don’t know about YOU but I have been having a FREAKING Fantastic Year So Far!

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That’s Luke Smallbone of For King and Country ! and me cheesing so hard ! YES!!

 

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My Life As a Trauma Nurse…Everything!

 

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Me and My Bestie Nik on top of a mountain in LA

 

Yes it is only February but I have literally been hitting strides with my goals in every area.   Of course my year has not been without its challenges. *phew!* but Philipians 2:14 says to

Do everything without complaining or arguing

and that means “Doing Life”

Let’s not even really get into the complaining or arguing part of that verse in this post cuz that’s like me figuring out how to NOT scream while fire-ants dance around my feet …..let’s just get right into How You can have a GREAT Year (so far) too!!!

*First, What do you want out of this year?

 

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If you’re just content with waking up everyday and just “seeing how it goes”…. I’m sorry, uhm…. I feel bad for you…. like just picturing that just made my vision become one zombie-like black and white picture. Womp freaking womp.

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Soooooo What Do You REALLY Want Out of 2016?

 

 I have quite an extensive list.

Most of it is between God and I but here, I’m feeling like Santa so I’ll share some:

 

Travel a lot

 

 $Save a lot of money

 

Be So Excellent at work : )

 

G i v e   B a c k

 

Get abs ! yes you will see my before and after picture! Awoo! **300 army voice**

 

And So far So Great !  I think the key is really knowing what it really is YOU not your mom, dad, best friend, sibling but what YOU want out of your year and then Secondly, WRITE it down…

 

Habakuk 2:2 says Write down the revelation and make it plain on tablets so that a herald may run with it”

                  I write down all my goals and that process makes it either realistic or maybe not so realistic…. like for example….can I really lose 20 lbs in 3 months? yeah probably… Now knowing myself, will it stay off? yeah probably not. But if I make a step by step How-to… I find that I would rather make a lifestyle of eating healthy and having a routine fit lifestyle and that way I can lose and keep the weight off …

*Writing what you want down on paper, a board, a journal, makes goal-setting exciting…

It’s no longer just a thought in your head.

It’s R-E-A-L!

Seriously, try it !

*Finally….Pray about it and then just DO it…

Like I’m serious.

STOP talking about it already. Just take step 1. whatever that 1 is. For me, it’s blogging at 1:17am in the morning and setting a “publish by” time.  No more “Is this the right time?”…. YES IT IS THE RIGHT TIME!  I promise you that was a loving yell.

But yup, In summary :

  1. ask yourself : What Do YOU want out of 2016??
  1. Write It Down! – This will help you realize what is realistic and make steps
  1. Pray and Just Do it !  – No procrastination. YOU Can Do This!

Until my next post, I hope you get to dreaming big because

                             2016 is gonna be a GREAT YEAR!!!!

Peace fingers,

Awele Charlene

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And The Award for Best Month Ever Goes To….

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Picture this right here

 

             

It’s the group New Edition and *stay with me!* They are walking up to you to sing “Can you Stand the Rain?” click here to hear it while you keep reading)

Now in my best deep falsetto voice:

                                              I’m sorry I havent been writing

                                                 It’s been tough you know….

                                        I had to go out there in that big cold world…

                                                    and make a dollar or two… 

                                                       or maybe it was more..

                                                    But what I’m trying to say…

                                                 Baby Can you Stand The Rain…

                                     Cuz I’m back.. I might have been goneee….

                                                               But I’m back….

 

*dramatically slides in the rain*

Okay fine…. *stop the music*

Yes, *sigh* as usual, I have been MIA

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hoping this cute puppy helps my case

       Yes, *sigh* as usual, I have been MIA

              But heyyyy…. *awkward smile* Happy New Year!   Happy “New Year New Me” has sailed, maybe?   Happy New Month of February!!!

I have been just Loving Life. Living Life. And LEARNING a lot about Life.

And yes, my Purpose through this blog is to spread my lessons and even though they have not been as timely as I would like……I’m working on that.  I have been just Loving Life. Living Life. And LEARNING a lot about Life.  But heyyyy…. *awkward smile* Happy New Year!   Happy “New Year New Me” has sailed, maybe?   Happy New Month of February!!!

I think that’s important. The reality that I am so short of perfection, yet I’m striving.

                                            Aren’t we all though….

                                                                        Best.Possible.Me.


right?

So quite a few changes are going to be made in 2016. And for all the loyals, Its going to be big and fabulous.  Just wait on it.   I’m really working to improve #BPM on a whole new scale.  Sometimes I want to shut down the blog and come back when I’m ready but when is anyone ever “ready”?  *insert church lady “hmmm that was deep chile'” here*  I know that God is using me even in my unreadiness and it’s alllll about the journey so yeah, walk with me.

 

Okay so what’s the Best Month Ever….

October !… duh

October was the BEST AMAZING Month EVER!!!

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LOL!! I know we are in February so like…that doesn’t make any sense… to youuu maybe. But okay let me explain. So I turned 29! Yes this is my last year in my twenties….

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And while I’m so excited….oh hol’ up ha ha I meant to use a happy baby not a crying baby  *cleans tears on my face* Lol!! But anyways I have so much to DO !!  I am so excited and ready to TURN this New Year of not just 2016 but my year of 29 OUT!! Let’s do this, Charlene! Let’s Live Life on a Super Amazing Note!  Already I’m off to a crazy awesome start!!!

  1.  My travel game is so on fleek (I hate that word).  I was blessed to go to the beautiful Puerto Ricooo and the famous El LaY (LA) all with my besties….isn’t God good?
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2. My give-back mode has also been A-mazing!  Phew! My friends and I gave over $100 in Gift cards, Food, and Toys to an amazing charity in December ! and in January we collected blankets for the homeless !

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what a blessing to be a blessing
  1. I have friends doing amazing things!! like graduating…or getting promoted….or doing well in school….or being superstars at work…. or getting engaged !  *scream!*
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    my bestie got her MPH! Yessss!!!

4. did i mention my brother who is also my BEST-FRIEND also got engaged…

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my first best friend in life is marrying his best friend for life 🙂

Like My Life is on a 100 right now!!!

 

OF course there are downs….here and there…. but who doesn’t go through downs? as the saying goes, it makes you appreciate the Ups, right? I’ll rap about it in another blog.

This is just to say ….like Mase..(again..)  I’m backkkkkk….heyyyyyy

#Luckygirlseries #Blessed #BestpossibleMoi

Until next time,

Peace fingers,

Charlene

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Reflecting on September

I thoroughly enjoyed September. Did I meet every goal? A good portion. I mean I worked hard, I gave back, I enjoyed amazing company, but best of all…..I learned.

A lot.

Here are random clips from my musings lately ….

Musings: a period of reflection or thought 

Disclaimer: As usual, this is me being open. Judging is never welcome here. Just Love, Smiles & Giggles, and Lots of Growth.

So enjoy….

“Discipline really sucks.”

“Excellence requires a step above average. And quite frankly, sometimes, I just want to be average.”

“I mean how can I possibly squeeze in working out, going to work, cooking, cooking healthy mind you, maintaining a blog, maintaining myself, checking up and doing things with and for my seemingly 1000+ family and friends…..my Lord..”

“Social media be lying…”

“Somethings gotta give…”

“Doesn’t always something give…get left behind…”

“Sometimes it is easier to just be average. But it really is the desire for more…for better… that makes one do more… “

“Structure…Structure is what I crave…Better structure…”

“Man I need a life coach or something…”

“For free…”

“I’m really blessed.”

“Am I good christian?”

“Do I exemplify Christ in ALL I do…? because a lot of people sure do irritate me”

“I’m not perfect”

“I’m trying though…*sigh*”

“Why are some people intentionally horrible? like mean? spiteful?…like did you just hear yourself say that stupid thing?…”

“Do people think before they talk?? before they act?”

“I need to work on my patience.”

“I miss my mommy.”

“I love love fall…pretty brown leaves falling everywhere…”

“I read somewhere that trees teach us to let dead things go… how accurate.”

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“letting dead things go…lol…sounds about right…”

“Dead relationships…dead promises….dead memories…”

“let the hurt die, Awele..”

“2016 is almost over…my word..what a year…”

“and I still have a lot to do…”

“October is about to be so live.”

*smiles*

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                                                                          this is one of my favorite apps on my phone

Until next time,

Peace fingers,

Charlene

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We rocked it out August!

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Hiiii loves!!

*scream!!**

The year is almost over!!

**iphone emoji shocked face!**

Lol! Question 1.) why do I always like to scream? 2.) you guys can tell I have an iphone and I use my emoji’s quite often right?

Lol!!

Okay! Right to it! How was your August?? Yes, We’re still on the Best Possible Me Monthly Check-in and I really hope you all are enjoying your Year so far ! Seriously it is my hope and joy that Month by Month you experience amazing things, people, places, food… just Amazingness all around ! #BPM Yasssss!

So, July was crazy awesome right? Click here and read all about it if you haven’t! But guys, seriously, going into the month, I was nervous… like What if…? Trust me I know you all think that too.  What if this month doesnt work out? What if work is harder than I thought? What if  I am not financially secure? Just what if!??  But thank God I remember that duhh, I serve a God that tells me time and time again not worry about anything but to pray over everything.

           “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God”    Philippians 4:6

Keeping this verse and others too in my mind, I declared over August that it would be a month of PEACE and JOY! and boyyyy was it!!   So here were my goals, and hey now ! I accomplished 100% of them ! Whooo!!!!!!

Personal Goals

  • Go somewhere new – I went to an amazing movie theater with friends and the experience was wonderful!  It was like I was in bed. with my blanky. and a button to push for unlimited popcorn. Myyyy my my.  How come I never knew about this before?  two thumbs up !!!

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  • Do something new – Paint Night – Check out my skills tho! This is on sale for $499.99. Let me know if you’re interested. LOL!!  okay im half kidding.

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    Lil’ Picassos. Mi amours !
  • Meet someone new– heyyy new friends at work !  A genuine smile and “how are you” goes a long way

For Others

  • Help someone new – While I could not physically participate in the Homeless Initiative, my amazing roomie held down the fort and created over 100 goodie bags for the homeless!!  It was awesome!!! I also kept snacks in my car for anyone I saw with a sign who maybe needed some food.  This works if you do not feel comfortable giving money but check with your local authorities because sadly, some states are making it illegal to feed the homeless.  *sad face*.

– I also helped my co-workers !

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Giving is so much fun. You end up being SO blessed as well as blessing someone
  • Support my friends – A friend and an awesome brother to me had a comedy performance in Jersey and I as well as my friends supported him. It was a hilarious night to say the least.  I also had a ball attending a beautiful friend’s bridal shower. The countdown is on, Abby!!

    This guy is a star !
    This guy is a star !
So happy for the Bride-to-be! Nigerian Weddings are always a blast !
So happy for the Bride-to-be! Nigerian Weddings are always a blast !

For Family

  • Go above and beyond – If I saw a need, I stepped up.  Whether it was getting groceries for an aunt, surprising my sisters with lunch, listening to a friend in need, staying past clock-out time at work, I kept praying for opportunities to do more ! and God did not disappoint.
  • Family time – Family time is everything to me and I loved my breakfast/lunch dates with my sisters!  plus I took my cutie siblings, JJ and Armani to the movies and they loved it!
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Whoo!!! I feel so accomplished and I truly enjoyed my August! It was fantastic !! Memories ontop of memories. I am so grateful for this life God has given me, truly. Now your goals might have been just one simple thing or it could have been a long laundry list. Whatever the case might be, I encourage you to get out there and really ENJOY life !  Setting goals does not have to be stressful and you can start out light.

There are so many places in your city to be explored, people to meet, quests to conquer, and FUN to be had…. and it’s alllll waiting on you.

So…..

You Ready?

Hey now, that’s the spirit.

I’ll see you later for BPM September Edition.

In the mean time,

Peace fingers,

Charlene

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My Amazing July

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Heyyy Loves!

So let me first say that I was almost done with this post…so EXCITED to post….and then it all deleted.  -__-

Thanks WordPress.

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And Yes, I saved my draft.

But poof ! Into thin air.

No evidence whatsoever.  *sigh*

Regardless!!! Counting it all joy and moving on….. My July was Amazing !  Out of the 9 goals, I accomplished 6 of them.

Okay fine, if you want to be mean technical, I guess you can say I accomplished 5.5/9 of my goals.

LoL, let me explain.

Haha! Kevin Hart Let Me Explain…. Get it? Okay lets just get started….

Here were my goals and my #BPMmonthlycheckout.

For my personal growth:

1. Lose 5 lbs  –  Almost !  I Lost 4.5 lbs !!

2. Pass my Boards!   – Done!! I did! I am an official registered nurse! Whoo!!

3. Make a completely new dish I haven’t cooked before ! *yum*   –  Done!! Ribs, parmasean garlic chicken, yummers!

For the honor of someone else:

1. I plan on serving in a give-away package event for the homeless !  *excited face!** – Done!! It was amazing!!

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The wonderful ladies of Pinky Promise that I was privileged to serve with!

2. I plan on displaying excellent service at my job and making people smile! – Done!! It helps that I lOVE my Job!!!

3. I plan on encouraging people through blogging more in July! – Almost! I did read & follow more blogs but I will post more!

For my family:

1. Calling my family more-  Almost! I wish I called more family but i’ll do better 

2. Traveling with the siblings and making memories – Done! Even though I wish it was with more of my siblings! My bro & I took a road trip to see our sister in North Carolina ! Fun fun fun!

3. Spending time with my pops – Not Done : ( This too will get better in August, stay tuned! 

So Yay!!  The whole point of goals is to push yourself to be better.  There’s no putting yourself down on this blog.

O-kay! Lol!!

  All in all, July was AMAZING!!  I had so much fun, I honestly feel overwhelmingly blessed.  I enjoyed a cookout with close amazing friends, I blessed people and was blessed by people through a serve-the-homeless initiative, movies, birthdays, a wine-festival, passed my boards, started work, consistently worked out, traveled, enjoyed eating right, sometimes ate bad, laughed, cried, made mistakes, and learned !

Mannnnn, I love this LIFE God has given me.

And I hope YOU do to.

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Beauty All Around.               I love these ladies

So, How was Your JULY ? And what are your goals for August?  Stay tuned for August’s Best Possible Me Check-in….

Until next time!

Peace fingers!

Charlene !

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Wait What? Julyiiinngg! BPM’s Got News!!

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Hey lovely lovelies!

So this is going to be a super duper quick post on #BestPossibleME aka #BPM !

I wanted to say Happy JULY!!! Yes, even though we are 10 days in already. Lol! What?

I want to start a #BPM Monthly Check-in & Check-out !

*yay!!*

Wait whaaa?  What is that…

Lol !! Well It’s self-explanatory.  At the start of the month, I’ll check in with you, get you HYPE!! Get you in the groooveee baby! LOL!  And MOST importantly get you thinking as to What Your Monthly Goals are to be the Best Possible YOU!  And then at the end, we’ll check-out and reflect.. How did those goals go? What can we do better? What can we NOT do going forward…

get it?

Now give me a stronger Yay!!!**

**spirit fingers!**

Okay maybe not.

Oh and I’m human and hopefully you who are reading this are too.  So if the goals repeat themselves, I think that’s just fine, right? I so hope you join in ! I’m excited!! To join in or know what they look like, the goals will look like this….. Feel free to customize it to how you want it to look like:

GOALS

For my personal growth

For the exhortation (oooh big word) or honor of someone else

For my family 

So For Example…… For this month of July:

For my personal growth:

1. Lose 5 lbs – yeah yeah, don’t …let’s not do this. Just accept it !

2. Pass my Boards!  **pray for me!!**

3. Make a completely new dish I haven’t had before ! *yum*

For the honor of someone else:

1. I plan on serving in a give-away package event for the homeless !  *excited face!**

2. I plan on displaying excellent service at my job and making people smile!

3. I plan on encouraging people through blogging more in July!

For my family:

1. Calling my family more (somewhere my aunties and uncle said AMEEN! LOL!)

2. Traveling with the siblings and making memories

3. Spending time with my pops : )

Now while this may be new to You, I have been doing this for over 2 years now and It has truly transformed my day-to-day living.  It gives my life so much more purpose and instead of saying “daggg, where did the time go? What have I done in my life? WHAT AM I DOING in my life?” You can simply say…Wait a minute !! Charlene from #BestPossibleME Put me ON to Monthly Goals and you can whip out your Journal or Where-ever you will store your goals-and-progress and you WILL look at it with so much joy, pride, reflection and just feel encouraged that You are Indeed Growing and Living!

Okay until next time,

Peace fingers*

Charlene

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My 2015 Pinky Promise Conference Experience

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 Okay, so I’m here to blog about my experience at the Pinky Promise conference which was Amazing ! Now while that is my summary of the experience, don’t worry I will be breaking it down exactly to what was A-mazing and also what was…. not. so. much. a-mazing.

Now before I do, I need to say this so please clean your glasses or if you don’t wear a pair, blink a couple of times so you can read this clearly ….because I will not be misunderstood on here.  This is my blog, my views, and pretty much my perspective.  I will always be respectful, the best I can, as well as be honest, and I will stay true to moi **smiley face**  so with that being said, I ask that you respect my opinion(s) and if you don’t dig it, then beat it.

 Thaaaannnkkkkssss.

OK, let’s do this!

So first a general gist about the Pinky Promise conference.  It’s a conference put together by a phenomenal team headed by the Founder, Speaker, and Author, Heather Lindsey who is basically pro-abstinence/celibacy and pro-women being all about their walk with God. (check out her Website & Instagram here. Also more info about the conference here).  Going to this conference, My friends, my sister, and I were all in this place of great expectation from God.  Individually, we’d been going through some difficult tests and from many conversations, we just needed a renewal, some real encouragement…a word…

 Yeah it was pretty serious.

But we were so excited and went with ready hearts to take it all in.  The conference is in Atlanta and so since we had never been, we also got a package deal to see some awesome sights like The Center for Civil Rights Museum, the CNN center, and World of Coca-Cola amongst other places…  But I digress, back to the conference…

It was so awesome getting to the Hilton Atlanta where it was held, We felt sooooo welcome!  There were all these ladies with fascinator hats and smiles with ready hugs to welcome us at the door.  We got registered and got these cute pinky promise bags with cute freebies and a name badge (great idea) with the schedule conveniently attached to the back.  I mean you could tell a lot of thought went into the planning stages.

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Cute
Forgive my nails but my name badge! keeping with the pink theme !
Forgive my nails but my name badge! keeping with the pink theme!
The Schedule on the Back. Super Cute and Efficient Idea *thumbs up*
The Schedule on the Back. Super Cute and Efficient Idea *thumbs up*

Thursday, aka Day 1, was pretty chill.  All we had to do was register and relax until the worship experience later that evening.  Looking back, my friends and I appreciated the gaps in between the events.  They were well worth it so that we could tour the city, get food to eat, or just relax and reflect.  That evening, the worship experience was literally wow!  The band came to do nothing but praise God !   We were so happy and it was easy being ushered into God’s presence.  Day 2 & 3 were filled with activities such as peaceful quiet time, Zumba, Meet & Greet, Book Signing, Clothing Swaps, fun seminars for singles and married women, mothers and business owners.

My beautiful fashionista roomie, Mo, found quite a few clothes at the swap ! me ....not so much.
My beautiful fashionista roomie, Mo, found quite a few clothes at the swap ! me ….not so much.
Oh here's a pointer that will save your life: bring a SWEATER! We had to squeeze into my Roomie's wrap
Oh here’s a pointer that will save your life: bring a SWEATER! We had to squeeze into my Roomie’s wrap
The Crew: L to R: Mo, Winnie, Me, and Sade.  The hall was full minutes after this. We were just early. Oh and we were in the middle of an already full half-room.
The Crew: L to R: Mo, Winnie, Me, and Sade. The hall was full minutes after this. We were just early. Oh and we were in the middle of an already full half-room.
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So glad to do life with beautiful driven women of faith

My favorite was the modesty talk with Jennifer Spears!   It was great hearing about how modesty is not just about your physical appearance but your HEART as well… Anddddd I got to personally talk to and take a picture with her !!  **eek!**

Me, Jennifer Spears who spoke on Modesty, and my bff Sade !
Me, Jennifer Spears who spoke on Modesty, and my bff Sade !

Now at the end of each full day, Friday and Saturday, was a sermon aka preaching. Friday’s was by Heather’s hubby, Pastor Cornelius Lindsey (men check out his website and blog here!!), and Saturday was by Heather.  When I say you had to be there…. like I can’t FULLY and in detail talk about what they preached (at least not in this post) but let me tell you…

it w-r-e-c-k-e-d !!

Here’s like the most basic of basic points that hit me from the messages:

1. Christians have got to be more DO-ERS of the word instead of just hearers.  It simply does no good until you ACT out your faith.

2. Judge Y-o-u-r-s-e-l-f  daily

3. Do you have a heart for people and God’s work? or just yourself? 0_0  #majorouch

And here I thought I was going to get some cutesy, everything-go’n-be-alright, rainbows and flowers message

 *buzzer sound*

Yeah, I definitely left with a heart to DO, and be more like Christ and not just talk about it.

PHEW!

OH!  There were also ONgoing initiatives that you could have totally plugged in to:

1.) state wide baby shower for single pregnant/ low-income mothers (still happening..check the site!)
2.) 24 hour worship where we prayed for the state of the world (especially as the South Carolina shooting had just happened : (   *sigh*

Now for the parts I didn’t like, rightttt… Well, honestly it was no shade to the event but more of a call for us as christians to just do better.  During the praise and worship, it was pretty disappointing watching some ladies just sit down and just stay on their phones the whole experience.   Like you paid all this money to come and justtttt do that…? huh.  And of course, there were the people that came for the WRONG-EST reasons….like to:

1.) find a man  (there was a men’s conference literally a stones throw away *sigh*)

2.) to sit 0.5268 inches from heather and cornelius’s face  — like seriously, stop idolizing human beings!  It’s okay to get excited about meeting someone who is such an awesome beautiful vessel of truth but uhhh, some people just needed to relax and get with the message.

3.) to NOT network.  really? it’s a conference. Get our of your comfort zone and meet someone new!  I did! and I even wish I met more people.  **adding that on my to-do list for next year*

But that’s it though.  No one is perfect. Not even I.  We can alllllll do better.

As for the conference, I am so sure next year’s will be even MORE LIVE!!!  I sure hope they add a screen and show the lyrics to songs that are being performed during worship so that people who are not familiar can sing along.   I also plan by God’s grace on being more of a helper in the form of volunteering and spreading words of encouragement to more and MORE people like through this blog and let them know that GOD LOVES and He LOVES so completely.  He takes us as we are and makes us so MUCH MORE in HIM.   So I’m totally cleaving and I’m never ever letting GO.

I can’t wait for NEXT YEAR’S PINKY PROMISE CONFERENCE!!!

Whoooooo!!!!!!

My Beautiful Loves and Pastor Cornelius
My Beautiful Loves and Pastor Cornelius

Until next time Y’all,
Peace Fingers,

Charlene

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